“I have to admit, I used to be a big criticizer. If someone was doing something I deemed as wrong, I would immediately call it out. I’d stand there on my high horse believing that the only way to make this world better was to purge it of all the stupid thoughts floating around out there.
I used to believe in negative reinforcement. The idea that calling people out publically and shaming them would cause them to change.
Boy was I wrong. I was so wrong that I couldn’t have been further from the truth… The key is that 99% of people you criticize will not see themselves to blame anyway.“